Talking About Depression
People with depression may worry that friends or loved ones will reject them, or that talking about it will make things worse. But talking with a friend or family member is often the first crucial step on the path to getting better.
Whether you're suggesting that someone seek professional help or encouraging them to continue with a treatment plan, it's important to be mindful of what you say and the way you say it.
Tips for having a successful conversation
- Be an "active listener." Before responding with your own thoughts, try repeating back what the person has just said.
- Don't worry about having the right answer. Just being present and showing you care can go a long way.
- Don't belittle the person's feelings. Attempts to say something positive like "You don't seem that bad to me" can actually make a depressed person feel worse.
- Don't forget to say things like "I love you," "I'm here for you," and "You're not alone in this."
Talking with someone who is undergoing treatment
- Don't assume that someone in treatment no longer needs to talk. Many people get discouraged in the first few weeks, before they feel any real improvement. It's critical that you stay in close contact and urge the person to hang in there.
- Give positive feedback. Let them know when you see any improvement—even a small one.
- Keep reassuring them that, with time and help, they will feel better.
